Pregnancy without a mother - how are you supported?
A swirling embrace of a new life and of a life that was; within a life that is. #mindblown
I Googled ‘pregnancy without a mother’ many times - with the thoughts;
• I’m not ready.
• I can’t do it without her.
• Who will mother me?
• Who’s going to help me?
…and after the birth of my second child, I made a wish.
I wished that, one day, I would be a shining light for others who put those words into their own Google search.
Here I am, almost 11 years later, doing exactly that.
It’s ok to continue your bond with her.
Grief doesn’t end. The concept of ‘staying connected’ to the bond you had with your mother, validates your grief. You are not stuck in grief, grief is a journey. Remember and honour them.
It’s ok to embrace light in a dark place.
Embracing your own journey into motherhood is a transformative, beautiful thing. The light of new life can be healing in its very purpose to make you a mother.
It’s ok to feel your identity shift.
More than ever you may feel your foundations rock as you experience matrescence - ‘the birth of a mother’ - and it’s absolutely ok to allow it to be complex and poignant.
It’s ok to follow your own intuition.
Even with all the questions you would like to have asked your mother, the answers are all within you.
I help you to remove any fears and anxieties you may hold surrounding your baby’s birth and becoming a parent.
I do this through teaching you how to work with your body and your baby, and give you some specfic tools and techniques to support and empower.
This is so that you can birth confidently and calmly.
Hypnobirthing gave me the tools and the power to embrace my whole self as I birthed my third baby; it allowed me to connect mindfully to who I was a woman, parenting my own babies, without my mother; yet surrounded by the wisdom of womanhood.
Hypnobirthing with me as your teacher, or holding space and energy as your doula, is a nod to knowing, understanding and holding you - just as you are.
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