✨How prepared are we for pregnancy really?✨

I’m 24 years old here, with my wonderful friend @preternatural.sophie , feeling oh, so, sick.

I’m about 12 weeks pregnant with my eldest son.
I’d been a nanny; I’d been 9 when my brother was born; I loved babies; I really wanted to be a mother.
But it didn’t feel enough.

There’s an awful lot we are all in the same boat for.
I have a @selfishmother sweatshirt with •Winging It• on the front, because (mostly) we all are.
But there are many things we CAN know that allow us to feel safe in the knowledge that we are prepared, supported and feeling held.

•Why is everyone telling me it's 'such a good sign' to feel sooooo sick? ✨Feeling sick isn’t fun at all. It’s really common, but it’s also very varied. You are supported. *Also, it’s totally ok to stay in bed.

•What does 'Oh you'll soon find out!' mean anyway? What's the mystery?
✨The birthing journey may hold many unknown variables, but you can look for the things you can control - and you are at the centre of it all. Wherever you are, whatever your birth plan, however you move to the flow of this magical force, the energy in which you are held can remain comforting, safe and sacred.

•This isn't at all what I expected. Am I really ready for this?
✨Childbirth is empowering and fierce, and when we acknowledge the ancient strength we have within, we relax to the knowing that our bodies are designed to do this. You will be supported as you and your baby make this momentous journey together.

•Why did no one tell me about the latent phase of labour?
✨You will hold yourself in that moment - between fear and knowing - your womb tightening gently; hugging the sweet soul within. Ebbing and flowing, and steadying, and stopping, the days passing with the same building of momentum and quietening again; and you will practice honouring the trust you feel in your body.
Your body knows that when the time was right, you will bring your baby earth side in the way you intend.

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